A Constant Reminder

While coming up with the idea of this blog, Lily and I were reading the Seven Levels of Communication by Michael J. Maher. In this book, the main character goes to a workshop where everyone is wearing these black bracelets. The mantra one was supposed to think when looking at the bracelet on their wrist was to “Do it now.” This got me thinking….which could potentially be quite dangerous!

I want my kids to feel like they are a part of something bigger than themselves. I want them to feel included and know they have the support of the family around them. This lead to the idea….that WE should get bracelets for all the girls…I could use suggestions for the guys, but since the girls will be taking most of the spotlight…at least in the near future, I figured it would be ok to focus and get bracelets for the gals! I was thinking and thinking, and finally decided to get charm bracelets. This way we could look at getting charms as we completed things. So, now, this bracelet will not only symbolize that we are all a part of something bigger than ourselves, we will also get to show off our accomplishments too! Together we are stronger and can do so much more!

In the search for bracelets, we stumbled on a gentleman in Hong Kong, Roger Yim, who encouraged us to design our VERY OWN, signature bracelet. Once we decided that this idea was AWESOME, we drew inspiration from a picture that Lily drew for her father. (Look familiar??? Yep, our logo is created around it too….that is a post for another day!) Through this image and Roger, our bracelets went from Lily’s image to a 3d rendering of what our bracelet will look like. They are now in production and we are awaiting their arrival. I am so stinking excited….OH!!!! AND, we get to design our own charms too!!!! Woot Woot!

Also included…

By now, you’ve heard from the females of the family…it’s time to hear from the men of the family.  When I first heard the idea for this blog, I thought it was a great idea for a few reasons:

1) it would allow me to recapture some of the opportunities to bond that were lost to Covid and the lockdowns/restrictions we’ve all been subject to over the last year.  This is good for my older children, as I’ll have less opportunities to forge those bonds as time goes by.  However, it is also a good opportunity to create lasting memories with my younger children while they’re still so young (and before I get too old).

2) this is also a chance for Lauren and I to strengthen our partnership in very meaningful ways.  It is up to both of us to foster a thriving family.  However, over time some of that has been lost to excessive screen time and more “mental” social distancing within our house.

3) the activities we’ll be doing will give good experiences for our youngest son.  As the youngest, he has certain advantages over his older sisters.  However, as the only boy in the house, he has much to learn as well.  Still, with this blog, he’ll have some great opportunities to learn about the world around him.  He’ll also be able to share those experiences with his sisters—improving their bonds.

Finally, this gives us a chance to interact with our whole community in a positive way.  We don’t have a “jet-set” lifestyle, so our activities won’t be as extravagant as what is seen on TV.  However, we hope to show that that level of affluence isn’t necessary, and anyone who wants to improve or re-establish relationships—within their household or within their community—can do that pretty easily; not with money and privilege, but by simply having conversations,  exploring topics that others are interested in or taking the chance to learn how to make something from just the raw materials.

And Then There Was Sadie!

Hello my name is Sadie and I am 9 years old. I have recently become more of a fan of reading (something my parents have been trying to get me into for years!). However, I really love fashion and the idea of making things. For my 9th birthday, my parents bought me a sewing machine and I am excited about some of the projects I will get to make!

This blog is exciting to me because we are building relationships in our family but what makes me happier is the idea of showing other families it can be done. I want other families that felt like ours to know it can get better. It makes me feel amazing that our family is coming together and I really hope we can make a difference for other families out there!

Ilana’s intro (I say hello)

Hello I am Ilana. I like reading (I’m a slow reader), soccer (I’m practicing and getting better), and sewing. I am the 10 year old (11 next week!). My family and I want to help YOU (yes, YOU) with your family relationships. This started as “just an idea” but now it is a full-on passion to help reconnect/connect families as we reconnect our own. I’m excited to learn new things as the whole family explores things like working on cars, family road trips, camping, etc. By doing all these things together, we can show how these new things strengthen our bonds. The goal would be that others can see that there are so many different ways that families can do things together.

This is Me!

Hi, I’m Lily. I am an avid reader, writer, and sometimes like to do art. I am currently the eldest child in this household of 6, which include:  my little siblings, Ilana(10), Sadie(9), and Ori(3), and my parents Tommy and Lauren, or as I like to call them–Ima and Dad. We also have two dogs, Kiwi and Clapton (both huskies) and they are always finding ways to make us love them and tear up our house whenever given the chance.  My family has fallen apart drastically due to moving and the onset of Covid, causing gaps between each other that we are now trying to fill. We all live under the same roof, and because of Covid we haven’t really been able to go out and do anything.  However, we realized that the relationships we all had with each other were hanging by a thread. 

One night, as my mother and I were talking we came up with the idea of creating a blog. Well, let’s be honest, we were talking about doing a sewing project, like making wallets.  Then we slowly started building up the idea. “We should have notebooks assigned to each project we do!” “What if we made a video tutorial when we make something?!” “We are doing a lot of hikes and taking lots of photos.  We should find a way to post them!” Eventually we called a friend and she told us we should create a blog.  Thus, ‘Birds of a Feather Stuck Together’ was born. This blog, and every thing else we do with ‘Birds of a Feather Stuck Together’, is going to show us doing everything we can to reconnect, experiment, build new relationships, help find future paths, goof around, and (hopefully) help families who are going through the same thing. 

And So It Begins

Welcome to the Tam family! We are currently 6 under one roof. We have my husband, myself, and 4 kids. I will let each of them introduce themselves as we go along as we are each main characters in our story. For myself, I am a mom of a disconnected family. Between moving to a new city and then the Covid-19 pandemic I had become withdrawn from the world and my family. It pains me to say how disconnected my family has become on my watch. I am ashamed to know that we have been “stuck” together with the “stay-at-home” orders but that everyone in my house has been doing their own thing. 

Recently, I decided it was time for a change. I talked to my oldest daughter, Lily, and we decided to come up with a family blog on our daily lives and our efforts in reconnecting with each other. I have always wanted to teach my kids to sew, make soap, build useful everyday things out of wood, and to have them explore the world around them and figure out what their passions in life are. In getting the whole family onboard with this blog, we’ll explore other trades, crafts and set off on other adventures that interest each of us. Through action and the desire for something more, we embark on our journey and are excited to take you along for the ride in hopes that we can help you discover a path to reconnecting with the loved ones in your life!

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